lying in wait (on romance part two only I'm going to stop with the "part x" nomenclature now this is just a newsletter about romance I guess)
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What the lover learns early is how to wait. Even in the best of circumstances, there are gaps – contained in time or in space – that are impossible to cross. In The Selfishness of Others, Kristen Dombek writes: …now he is here all the time, he won't leave, and even so close by, his mind – the other’s mind – can turn strange and blank. You can fill in the blank with stories about coldness and stories of evil. You can try to chase it down, rope it, you can make war on it, but it will still be blank. You can rage against your dependency, the absolute need for the other that can never be satiated, but the other is, in their own way and not through their own fault, the very center of their universe and there is a part of that centrality that will always be empty of you. You can study it and theorize it, but if the blank were not still bottomless, love would not ever go on long.
lying in wait (on romance part two only I'm going to stop with the "part x" nomenclature now this is just a newsletter about romance I guess)
lying in wait (on romance part two only I'm…
lying in wait (on romance part two only I'm going to stop with the "part x" nomenclature now this is just a newsletter about romance I guess)
What the lover learns early is how to wait. Even in the best of circumstances, there are gaps – contained in time or in space – that are impossible to cross. In The Selfishness of Others, Kristen Dombek writes: …now he is here all the time, he won't leave, and even so close by, his mind – the other’s mind – can turn strange and blank. You can fill in the blank with stories about coldness and stories of evil. You can try to chase it down, rope it, you can make war on it, but it will still be blank. You can rage against your dependency, the absolute need for the other that can never be satiated, but the other is, in their own way and not through their own fault, the very center of their universe and there is a part of that centrality that will always be empty of you. You can study it and theorize it, but if the blank were not still bottomless, love would not ever go on long.